Vibin with Vee

We've all been through that horrible breakup that you thought would last forever to even planning the future together. Then it happens, you don't feel the love anymore, one person starts getting treated like crap while the other is giving all their love and giving everything they have to them.

I've been through it. I was in a relationship for 7 months with the guy I thought I was going to spend the rest of my life with, all to get cheated on in the end. I know what you're saying, "You're so young, what do you know?" "7 months? That's it?" You're right I don't know a lot about love, but I will tell you I was in love with him. He was my first love and first guy I introduced to my family. Back then I had different views on what love is, today I think of love very different.

Again, "what do you know?" Love to me is knowing exactly every detail about your partner, it's the little things. Love is your partner coming home one day from having a great day, but you're having a horrible day, and your partner just wanting to listen to you and be there for you and not saying a word about their great day. Love is telling your partner good morning before checking their phone. Love is knowing the little details of your partner. Knowing their favorite song, knowing their favorite color, favorite snack, favorite drink. They're many different ways to express being in love with someone.

Many people deal with breakups very differently. For me, going through this one I had no option but to let go and move on, and it wasn't because I wanted to, he kind of left me with no choice. The breakup started off rocky before it ended, things started getting sneaky, he didn't put in the effort anymore, and of course I never noticed it until after the fact I found out. The love just wasn't there anymore, and as a person who doesn't give up very easily, I put my all in it. It started off with him wanting to "take a break" first, if someone wants to "take a break" do NOT give it to them, what for? If they don't want all of you they for sure don't deserve half of you. It's either you want me or not. Don't give them the option of letting them have you when ever they want. It doesn't work like that. I eventually took in my investigation skills 😜 and found out the punk was cheating on me for about 2 weeks, and when I confronted him, I got blocked, from EVERYTHING. I never got closure, till this day, I don't know the whole story.

So here is my advice for people who have been through a breakup or situation where you never got closure & having to accept an apology you never got. Closure doesn't come from the other person all the time, sometimes it takes YOU to tell yourself to move on and let it go. For a while, I tried getting the closure, texting, calling, nothing, it all led to things getting worse. I never thought I would get through it. I had to be strong for myself and move on. But here's the thing, we have to remember it's not us, it's them, don't ever question what you did wrong, because I did for a while until I eventually gave myself a pep talk and said NO! There is NOTHING wrong with me, I loved him and gave everything I could in a relationship, and him? He was nothing but a coward. Getting blocked for everything, was the best thing that could have ever happened to me. After all, they say when they block you, it means you won!

Which brings me to where I am now, going though a horrible breakup was a blessing. I have learned so many things not only about myself but about relationships. God doesn't just put us though difficult situations for nothing, there is always a reason. Today, I know what I want in life and I'm not afraid to go after what I want. Today I won't give up my hopes and dreams for anyone else. Even though the relationship was short, it didn't matter, it doesn't matter if your with a person for 4 months or 4 years, what mattered to me was what happened in those 7 months I was in that relationship, I put everything I had in it and we both went through things together. So don't let someone tell you to get over something just because it didn't last long.

If he ever got to read this, the one thing I would want him to know is I don't hate you I don't wish anything bad upon you, I actually wish you the best. The only advice I'd give him would be, if you ever feel the need to cheat on a person, tell the person, don't hurt them the way you hurt me. I wouldn't want any other person to feel the pain I did.

Be grateful for the struggles God puts you through. It leads you to amazing things. I've learned to love myself more and not let things get to me. Learn to move on from your past, better things will come along. God has an amazing plan for you & your future, don't let a horrible breakup define your future or yourself. You are worth it. We can get through anything by just leaving it all up God. 💛